Q: Will my life get better after reading your website?
A: No. Life does not get better by reading. Life gets better by doing. Reading brings awareness and understanding, which must be translated into action.
If there is no willingness to take action, reading serves as entertainment at best. Without willingness, reading may even lead to the illusion that we’re improving ourselves, when all we’re doing is consuming information.
So we must not only read, we must apply.
Let me propose that by reading you are trying to find something in the words that resonates with you. You’re searching for an external reflection of your internal state. That’s also why we watch movies, go to plays, and listen to music. We seek illumination, understanding, awareness, resonance – we seek to know and experience ourselves.
“All knowledge is ultimately self-knowledge.” – Bruce Lee
If you can use these words as a mirror to reflect the truth you already know, and then act upon that truth, then your reading would have served you well.
Q: But I’ve tried to apply and it never works for me.
A: Are you ready for real change?
Real change happens internally, not externally. Changing jobs, changing countries, changing relationships – none of these will lead to lasting satisfaction. Only if you are ready to do the real work of changing who you are on the inside can life begin to improve.
Many people say they want change but they only want circumstances to change. They do not want to change themselves.
The story goes:
The Yoga Sutras is considered one of the most important texts in the Hindu tradition and the foundation of classical yoga. The great sage Patanjali, called the Father of modern yoga, assimilated the 7 different branches of yoga into a single system – broken down into 4 books containing 196 aphorisms.
Now, the sutras only make sense if the reader has reached a certain level of consciousness. Each aphorism is like a formula, such as E = mc². Its simplicity belies great complexity and insight. Much is said in a few words.
The first chapter of the Yoga Sutras is just half a sentence, “And Now Yoga.”
What does it mean?
If you have experienced wealth, pleasure, power, fame, romance, lust, and all earthly pleasures, and realised that none of this will fulfil you – then it is time for yoga. If you still think that anything you do externally will bring you the inner peace and happiness you seek, then you’re not yet ready for yoga.
Similarly, if you have done all you can externally and realised that the outward path leads nowhere, then you are ready to turn inwards. The only way out is in.
When you are willing to do the real work of inner transformation, you will change.
Q: What does ‘becoming human’ mean?
A: We are moist robots, behaving in fixed ways, responding to external stimuli thinking we have freedom when all we do is play out our own psychological traps ad infinitum.
For example, those who fear connection constantly chose to isolate themselves, and then become more and more lonely. Or those who hate authority become rebels, raging and blaming the ‘system’ or institutions or the government without taking personal responsibility.
It is almost as if our behaviours are scripted. Give us a trigger, we act out whatever has been programmed within us.
The path to becoming human is to transcend these programs and open up ever more possibilities for ourselves so that we have greater degrees of freedom and choice to experience life. It is about experiencing life fully – both the highs and the lows.
Becoming human is to unleash our creativity and inspiration so that we experience freedom and bliss. In the process of becoming human, we let go of all the chains that bind us, let go of our fears, let go of our limits – and fly.
Q: What’s your writing based on?
A: I write mostly from personal experience as a human being and as a life coach. I also draw on wisdom imparted by spiritual masters and humanistic psychologists.
Spiritual masters – Kelvin, Sadhguru
Humanistic psychologists – Carl Rogers, Rollo May, M Scott Peck
Spiritual writings – The Pathwork Lectures